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Today is one month since we received that heart breaking call that our Mom had gone home to be with God. I thought I would share with you one of my mother's memorial readings.
Good afternoon, I’m Vickie Olivia one of Sharon's daughters. I want to thank all of you for being here today to celebrate the life of my Mom, Sharon Kullman
As I was writing this eulogy for my Mom, I took a lot of time and thought about what I would say about my sweet mother, I realized I would have two significant challenges – the first, and most obvious one, is whether I would really be able to do it – but I know that mom is watching over all of us and will help me get through it.
The second challenge was how I could adequately describe my mom with words – since mom’s life was so much more about her actions.
Throughout our lives, and most recently is how she faced her illness the past several years, Mom showed me time and time again what it meant to live with strength…and grace. Mom did not just “talk the talk” – she “walked the walk” – even when she truly could walk no longer.
At one point a few weeks ago, when I was telling mom how much she meant to me, and that I would be able to carry on because of all she had taught me - she said to me “Its not about the illness ….” As I waited to hear the wise words and the meaning of life that I was sure would follow next – there was silence , she had fallen asleep.
At the time, I was disappointed that she hadn’t finished the thought – but then I realized that she actually had. When I think about my mom, it really wasn’t about the illness – it was the way she responded to it that mattered and that I will always remember. This is something that I will share with my husband John and her grandchildren Anthony and Ashley, - when they face life’s difficulties, to respond just like Grammie. My mom always taught me that we have to finish what we start, regardless of how painful it is.
I will always think of this as one of the best lessons you taught me, How you took on life with such fever and vengeance … what an example for everyone. It is really impressive, and I am proud to be your daughter. They say you can’t pick your family, but I would have picked you.”
As a parent and friend, my mother had an extraordinary ability to make each of us feel stronger and more confident in our own identity, giving us our own sense of independence and mental toughness which, speaking for myself, has been such an asset in so many ways in my life. She will live in our memories and our hearts forever and I am will always be extremely proud to call myself the daughter of Sharon Kullman .
A few days after her death, I found a poem that id like to share with you.
When I am gone,
Release me, let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears;
Be happy we had so many years.
I give you my love,
You can only guess how much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love
You have shown me;
But now it’s time I travel alone.
So grieve a while for me,
If grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a while that we must part,
So bless the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away for life goes on.
So if you need me,
Call me and I will be near.
And if you listen with your heart,
All my love around you,
Soft and clear.
And when you must come this way along,
I’ll greet you with a Smile,
And say “Welcome Home”.
In so many ways, it didn’t feel like it was the right time for mom to leave this life. I mean, I still have the rest of my life that I was planning to ask her for advice and for her to gently remind me how special I am. I wanted her to be here to walk me through motherhood with my kids, and for her to see what else I will become, and to guide me through that, like my Mom always did. I also know that my brother's Jerry and Vinnie and my sister Tracey will miss her support and comfort, as they continue to deal with the pain of losing our Mom. I realize now though, that the time was exactly right for mom to go – after she had faced her weaknesses and become strong. She left us at a time when she had been at full capacity to give and receive love– which is reflected by the large number of people that she has touched. There is no doubt that our Mom has left this world a far better place because of her presence and her beautiful perspective.
We can all carry on mom’s memory by remembering to appreciate a dry sense of humor, to laugh often, to appreciate the incredible beauty of the world around us, to move through life trusting our instincts, to be Kind, and Learn Forgiveness.
On one of my recent visits, I looked into the mirror that mom had looked into each day for so many years, and I wondered if I was enough of her reflection to carry on her beauty through the rest of my life. If so, it would be my most honorable achievement. I often would hear throughout my life how much I remind them of my Mom, even on the day of her passing on the plane ride here. For this I am forever honored.
I know that mom would like me to say a few words about My Step father Stan– who has been such an incredible care giver and loving support to mom (and us) through there entire relationship – you truly have been an inspiration to all of us. Mom thought so too, and she told me on several occassions and I (Quote:) “Thanks for Stan…for taking care of me. He is a God send and could not be more loving and supportive. A lesson to me. What would I do without him, I love him so much” (End Quote) Stan, I feel the exact same way. Truly Thank you with all my heart for bringing complete joy into Mom's world. I love you
Finally, There is one more thing that has been on my mind. I was thinking of how modest Mom was about her achievements and how she brought so much joy to so many of us and I don’t think she fully understood her gifts. So I would like all of us to take a moment and think of those times you shared and say a special prayer of thanks, I know she will hear it.
I love you Mom, Good bye for now, Thank you for my life and may you rest at peace at last in God's hands
National Mothers Hall of Fame because:
Sharon Kullman's favorite sayings are:Be able to put your head on the pillow at the end of the day
It takes more effort to frown then to smile
Live life like you were dying
Sharon Kullman's best advice is:Start each day as a new day, as a gift
Stay strong, keep smiling and never give up the fight
You truly are special, you can do anything you set your mind to!!!
Sharon Kullman's best recipes are:Potato salad
Chocolate pudding pie
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